Obituary: Constance Arthur Barnum
Constance “Connie” Arthur Barnum, a lifelong resident of Darien, died peacefully on Monday, July 30, surrounded by her children.
Connie was born to Graham E. and Claire S. Arthur in New York City on Nov. 10, 1924.
She attended Darien schools, and graduated from Darien High School in 1941. Following graduation, she worked for Merrill Lynch in Stamford until 1944, when she married her beloved husband of 35 years, Richard N. Barnum.
Connie and Bud raised their four children in Darien. After Bud's death in 1979, Connie stepped in to manage Glen Liquors in Noroton Heights, which she ran for nearly twenty-five years.
Connie was a member of the Wee Burn County Club for over 60 years, as well as an active member of the Junior League of Stamford for many years. She was a constant inspiration to her children and grandchildren, an avid gardener, a beach lover, a masterful joke-teller, and above all, a fun loving, adored and adoring wife, mother, mother-in-law and grandmother.
Connie's survivors include her daughter and son-in-law, Wendy and Richard Hokin of Darien, her son, Richard N. Barnum III of St. Thomas, USVI, her daughter and son-in-law, Robin and Alan Sokolow of Carmel Valley, Calif., and her daughter and son-in-law, Pamela and James Love of Darien. Also surviving her are 11 grandchildren, Justin Hokin, Lauren Hokin, Alexandra Frazier, Dane Barnum, Morgan Gall, Schuyler Bailey, Calder Sokolow, Campbell Sokolow, Madelyn Love, Jameson Love, and William Love, two step-granddaughters Dana and Alexandra Hokin, and two great-grandchildren, Charlie Gall and Isla Hokin. She also is survived by her sister, Claire Arthur Harris of Darien.
Connie's family is very grateful to their mother's extraordinary caregivers, Susan, Nana, and Ellen, who took such loving care of her during the last eight years of her life.
A private family memorial will be held in Darien at a later date.
In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to Family Center, Inc. of Greenwich or The Food Bank of Lower Fairfield County, Inc. in Stamford.