Speech by Darien High School Principal Ellen Dunn
Good evening, Members of the Darien Board of Education, Dr. Dan Brenner, colleagues, parents, grandparents, guests and most distinguished members of the Darien High School Class of 2017.
There is a long standing graduation tradition at DHS of students presenting a small token to the principal as they receive their diplomas. Tonight, I am told, you will each hand me a beautiful paper butterfly. A butterfly is a perfect symbol for this occasion. Your childhood dreams were carried on the wings of these fragile creatures and you let your imaginations wonder at their flight. You squealed with delight when one rested on your finger and somehow, even then, you understood its magic and message of hope. The butterfly appears for a moment and is gone. If we are not careful, we can miss its presence. As we look upon you tonight, your parents, teachers, and friends, we feel that, like the butterfly, you have only been here for an instant.
You hold a special place in my heart because my daughter is also a member of the class of 2017 at her own high school and I speak as both principal and parent this evening. Her metamorphosis has paralleled yours. Looking back, we parents remember when your eyelids fluttered as you slept in our arms and this day was a distant dream. We can still hear you singing from your crib at the first sign of sunrise. We long for the days when we tamed the monsters under your bed and quieted your fears when lightning filled the night sky.
Many times over these 18 years we have wished we could make time stand still. In a way we have gotten our wish tonight. Our lives may be a frenzy of motion but milestones like this one give us a chance to pause and reflect. Today is a day fraught with contradictions. We want you to listen to us, but you must find your own voice. We want to protect you, but you must be free to make mistakes. We want you to avoid failure yet we know that failure will be your best teacher. We want your heart to be safe from harm yet we want you to know deep and abiding love. We don’t want you to suffer the pain of loss but we want you to take risks for what is worth keeping. We want to hold on to you yet, like the butterfly, we know you must spread your wings.
I was a biology teacher at Darien High School for 19 years and I can tell you that biologically speaking the butterfly undergoes a complete metamorphosis, meaning that it passes through four stages on its way to flight. These stages are so distinct that they bear no resemblance to the final form. The fertilized egg begins as one cell with all of the biological content necessary to orchestrate the journey. You also have everything within you that is necessary to navigate your future. Get to know yourself and be true to who you are. Your inner strength will guide your decisions and be your compass.
The caterpillar emerges and it is designed to consume. It is voracious in its appetite in order to fuel the change ahead. Like the caterpillar, you will need to build your reserves. Be a consumer of knowledge. Surround yourself with good people and reap the benefit of their wisdom. Take in all that the world has to give you and become the kind of person you admire.
Next, the caterpillar attaches itself to the leaf and is enfolded in the chrysalis for a period of inactivity. Take a lesson from this and find opportunities to be still. Shut off the phone, turn down the noise and be silent. Listen to the whispers of your heart and remember that life is precious. Hold those you love closer and tell them when you have the chance. Don’t waste a moment on hatred, bitterness, worry or regret.
Finally, the butterfly’s design is perfected for flight and it struggles to emerge. At its most vulnerable, the struggle forces fluid into the wings giving them shape. Your struggles will shape you as well. Overcoming challenges builds the resilience that will sustain you. The challenges you face will fuel change and creativity and carve out new directions. With renewed perspective, you will emerge like the butterfly, stronger than before.
But it doesn’t take a biology teacher to recognize that you have picked a perfect symbol for your final day at Darien High School. You have metamorphized into extraordinary young men and women before our eyes. There has never been a more impressive graduating class, not because of your outstanding accomplishments but because of your kind hearts, generosity of spirit, and profound gratitude. You are the hope for the future of our world and I am confident in your ability to change it. When we look upon your butterflies, we will remember you fondly for the impact you have had on this place. We have learned so much from you. You have changed us for the better.
Remember as you take flight that this is always your home and that you are loved. Godspeed on the journey.
Mr. Michael Harman, members of the Darien Board of Education and Dr. Dan Brenner, I am proud to present to you the Class of 2017.