Mindfulness Is the Surest Route to Having a Better Year in 2021

As last New Year’s Eve approached, the internet was awash with anti-2020 sentiment.

There were memes of Frodo saying triumphantly, “It’s Over. It’s Done.” In a call back to Fight Club, T-shirts read: “First Rule of 2021: Never Talk About 2020.” And not one but two streaming-platform comedy specials celebrated the end of mankind’s most recent trip around the sun. In one, an all-woman cast of comedians at a funeral home worked to, as Phoebe Robinson put it, “lay this motherfucker of a year to rest.” In another, Samuel L. Jackson played a journalist and asked producers who wanted to relive the last 12 months, “Why the fuck would you want to do that?”

The impulse to wish 2020 away with the disposal of a calendar is understandable. But that approach, humorously tapped into across culture, also proves that far too few people practice mindfulness. They viewed 2020 as a relentless dumpster fire, and conversely, they believed 2021 held the promise of utopia.

Sorry, but neither are true, and however counterintuitive staying present may seem in tumultuous times like this one, it can still be a boon to personal well-being.

Living in the moment helps a person recognize that “What I need is right here,” explains Jessica Brodkin, a 39-year-old reiki healer who lives in Brooklyn, and says her entire life “revolves around” practicing mindfulness. This discovery can help generate a sense of calmness in the body, as well as peace of mind. Unfortunately, as Brodkin observes, in society, “We’re constantly striving for and craving things outside of ourselves to make us happy.”

In 2020, the pandemic brought tremendous loss of life as well as economic destruction to families and businesses. Protests over social injustice reminded anyone with a drop of decency that America and other nations still have a ton of work to do if the promises of freedom and equality are ever going to truly manifest. People have suffered, in these ways and others. They’ve been deprived of basic needs.

However, staying present in the moment can help especially when times are hard. If a person doesn’t feel as though they have what they need or want in front of them while practicing mindfulness, Brodkin says that at the very least the effort allows them to “fully access” where they are. They can then make an informed plan to help put them in a more desirable place.

“If we’re constantly mentally escaping,” Brodkin continues, “by being anxious about the future, by living in the past, or by wishing that something wasn’t as it is, then we’re not actually able to move forward, and we’re not able to feel peace in that moment.”

Many “mentally escape” to avoid confronting the traumas of the present moment, which can be a sign of PTSD. As wonderful as it might sound to just ignore the most difficult emotions and challenging circumstances that life brings to any individual, there’s a cost to the body and mind. This type of behavior also means a person won’t truly appreciate the good stuff in life, either.

In the final moments of Netflix’s Death to 2020, the characters were asked what they learned over the course of the year. Among the answers were “how many steps there are between my couch and the refrigerator” and “how to properly pronounce, ‘Sieg Heil!’” Hugh Grant’s character, on the other hand, cheekily says 2020 supplied him with great joy. He founded a Zoom barbershop quartet with some old college friends he was able to reconnect with. As he launches into the first notes of a song, though, the producer pleads for him to stop, reemphasizing that 2020 had no redeeming value, and certainly not for amateur a capella singers. Sure, the bit is supposed to be funny; but many people did manage to make some joyful memories last year. You should feel allowed to cherish them, instead of compelled to cancel them out.

Amazon Prime’s Yearly Departed closes with a similar refrain. Behind Christina Aguilera, who’s belting out a ballad, there’s a projected list of what was lost in 2020, in memoriam. On the screen: “Handshakes,” “Cruises,” “Wearing a bra,” “House parties,” and more. The list’s final entry? “Fun.”

As a person who lives with an anxiety disorder and depression, who has undergone talk therapy for these issues going on seven years, 2020 was extraordinarily unpleasant in so many ways. Initially, while living in New York City, which became the world’s epicenter of the pandemic, I lost work and could barely get out of bed for weeks out of worries over, you know … *waves indiscriminately at everything.* But eventually, that subsided, and the fear that I would be stricken down for going to the deli for the most part withered as I realized that clean hands, face masks and social distancing could help stop the spread of COVID-19.

I also started dabbling in mindfulness, if only unwittingly.

“I think people have gotten into mindfulness without even knowing about it,” says Dr. Charles Figley, founder of the Traumatology Institute at Tulane University and a professor in its School of Social Work. “When you are isolated, or at least when you are asked to stay in your own house, you notice things you didn’t notice before.”