Sunday will be the annual celebration of Mother’s Day — one of those holidays that some people tend to think is invented by Hallmark. However, mothers (and fathers — but that is in June, be patient) deserve to be celebrated.
Mothers are often portrayed in literature and folklore (and said Hallmark cards and commercials) as the most selfless and gentle of human beings — giving up their time, their last bite of food when their kids are hungry, their own needs, and often sleep — especially when their children ages 0 to 5, and then again from ages 16 to the rest of their life.
But mothers aren’t perfect. They make mistakes. They lose their temper. They forget to pack a lunch for a field trip, and forget to send in your feather duster for dress like a canary day. They burn your breakfast.
The images of the perfect, got it all together, four squares organic food group lunch packed, pressed clothing, and immaculately completed homework Mom is hard for anyone to live up to.
Instead, let’s celebrate our flaws (no, not Bad Moms style. Let’s not go overboard).
Let’s celebrate our mothers for all they have certainly sacrificed and taught us. Let’s celebrate ourselves and our children’s friends’ moms when they don’t show up to the party on time, and have forgotten their gift at home. Let’s celebrate when we forgot our classroom is nut-free and sent in pecan-crusted walnuts for a snack. Let’s celebrate the mom in the school office in her pajamas because she missed drop-off time by five minutes — extra points for the bunny slippers.
Let’s celebrate mothers not just Sunday, but every day. Mothers are not more worthy of praise than other people. But what they do is critically important — and the role of a mother can be whoever we want it to be. It’s defined not by by our perfection — it is defined by doing our best to care for another living creature we are responsible for. That can be our child, our niece, a cousin, or even a cat or a dog, or a goldfish.
Mothers are not defined by the perfection they exhibit, but the love they outpour, and the love they get in return. Don’t forget to celebrate the mother in your life on Mother’s Day, no matter whoever, or wherever she may be, no matter to who or what she devotes that selflessness.
And to all those mothers out there — on Mother’s Day, don’t forget to celebrate yourself by dropping the perfection standards to which you might hold yourself. Indulge yourself in the love you have nurtured, eat all the pecan-crusted walnuts you want — and above all, get some sleep.