Whatever the truth may be in the media frenzy surrounding the current domestic violence case that happened in Darien, it serves as an important reminder.
Domestic violence remains one of the most underreported crimes against women.
Often, it can carry with it a shame or a guilt that is not associated with other crimes.
It can make the victim feel responsible for keeping a family intact, for protecting a loved one, for maintaining a reputation in the community, and defending professional integrity — despite the situation not being of their making.
It also is a crime that can happen repeatedly — because of its nature.
Because it is easier to escape a stranger than a person you have a history with, a person you have children with — a person you love, and turn to in your most terrible hours for stability.
It is much harder not to forgive that person, and even harder to run.
That is why no matter what the truth of the current incident is, it serves a reminder that we need to do more to help domestic violence victims. We need to keep an open dialogue about it. And we need to support our friends and family who might go through it and ask hard questions if they arise.
If you need help, or someone you know does, please call the Domestic Violence Crisis Center’s 24-hour hotline at 888-774-2900.
What do you have to lose by calling?
More importantly — what do you have to lose if you don’t?